Forced Abortions~~Do women have a choice?

This is in line with my posts on women. A rather distressing event was told me by my friend. His friend got his wife’s pregnancy aborted because he was not able to support the child at the moment. He himself got the medicines for the abortion. His wife supported him in this decision because for her, her husband was paramount. My friend is freaking upset. For him, the deliberate killing of a child is a grave crime, irrespective of what may been the compulsions. another friend questioned the wife’s decision to support the husband in this decision saying that it was cruel on her part.

How many of us have heard of such stories?

It is very easy to judge in such circumstances and to see everything in black and white. Hence, we have Right to Life-ists and Right to Choice (Pro-Abortionists) in operation. Whatever be the circumstances or reasons, it is an uncomfortable and extremely painful thing to hear of an unborn child subjected to a death so harsh.More so, when husbands/ men take an active role in this.  The genera line of opinions against abortion:

1.It is wrong to abort a child. A life is a life. Life beings at the time of fertilisation, though there is a window period of three months for abortion

2. morally/religiously–some religions forbid abortion.

(if you have any more reasons, do post in the comments :)~thanks )

And yet abortions occur in the following circumstances:

1.Teenage pregnancies

2.Victims of sex abuse

3.genetic defects/abnormalities/congenital defects

4.poverty/socio-economic reasons

5. Female foeticide/infanticide ~this is of a particularly heinous and abhorring type. directed against the girl child

6. medical reasons

Whatever be the issue, there is always a degree of uncertainty involved. A degree of ethics and doubt. Especially in cases where more than the woman concerned, other people take the decision. Was it wrong for the husband concerned to coerce his wife into this decision? Was it wrong on the part of the wife to support her husband in this cruel termination, purely on the basis of loyalty and fidelity? Had the wife opposed the husband, would she have received support or become an outcast? Are women so obligated to their spouse for their happiness that they will do anything, to keep them  happy  including acquiescing with such treatments? Is it wrong on the part of women to prioritise their acceptance by spouse/partner to anything else?Does it also have to do with cultures also where men are assumed to play the dominant role and hence the major decision maker in the family, including with respect to the children, forgetting the fact that it is the mother who bears and nurtures?

Think of these things and share your comments..

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• A Rant about Abortion (amumsmadness.com)

Dissolution

It seems so cloudy in my mind.
Darkness everywhere,
Heavy thunders can be heard from the distance.
What new thunderstorm is coming.
To create havoc and disrupt
The inner temple where I
Keep myself safe and sound.
What new overwhelming torrents would, Wash away the tranquil feelings
You have created in me.
How to steel myself against the painof the world.
I feel more alone every day then everbefore,
Without you besides me,
I will shatter like glass.
Without you to hold me, I will fall apart.
If you aren’t there,
Rather the savage swells
Come and break me.
Let me feel the power of the waves,covering me,
Drenching me,

Overpowering me.

Let me get submerged under the waves,

Feel the pounding n swaying of the walls,

of my sanctum,

tumbling and shaking me 

tottering and lurching.

Breaking apart over me.

As I go down under

The blessed layers, the opaqueness around.

I can’t bear the agony anymore.

No more struggling.

Dissolving into aqua, 

Fragmenting into atoms,

Disappearing into ether.
Come and find me

If you can find me, 

strain through the opaqueness and

maybe you will discover me 

smiling at you

a flotsam amongst the dark wonders of the sea.

At one at peace

Inseverable.

 

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Some thoughts on Music

Today I want to share some famous thoughts on music. 

Music happens to be an art form that transcends language. ~Herbie Hancock

Music is a higher revelation than all wisdom and philosophy.
Ludwig van Beethoven

Music is a moral law. It gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination, and charm and gaiety to life and to everything.
Plato

Music is a performance and needs the audience.
Michael Tippett

Music is forever; music should grow and mature with you, following you right on up until you die.
Paul Simon

If music be the food of love, play on.
William Shakespeare

If you look deep enough you will see music; the heart of nature being everywhere music.
Thomas Carlyle

It is cruel, you know, that music should be so beautiful. It has the beauty of loneliness of pain: of strength and freedom. The beauty of disappointment and never-satisfied love. The cruel beauty of nature and everlasting beauty of monotony.
Benjamin Britten

Guys and Girls and Friendship

Once upon a time, there was a guy and girl. They liked each other. They were close and they shared their thoughts. They were very much attached to each other…..THEY WERE BEST FRIENDS. Some of you faint…

Do you think that friendships of a platonic sort can be shared between males and females?

Do you feel comfortable sharing your problems /thoughts with a close/not so close friend of opposite gender?

Let us see what are the thoughts and views on this.

Some are quite clear that yeah u can have close bonding and platonic friendships with members of the opposite gender. For some it is a difficult issue.

My friend, @Sparrk_PluG here is quite clear that only in films can u find good friendships between guys and gals.

“	Never (in films only) RT @_IamJyothi do you think that guys and girls can be very good friends, even better than guys-guys and girls-girls?
	Sparrk_PluG July 31, 2011

Why so? Is it  the cultural background which creates this feeling?  Males-Males and Females-Females friendships only possible and Males-Females relationships inevitably end up in romance.

Here are some more views on friendship amongst opposite gender…

“	@_IamJyothi no I think there is too much chance of a deeper relationship developing between man and woman friends
	Larry_Kolber July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi of course and i speak personally they have been difficult for me to maintain. it may work for others
	Larry_Kolber July 31, 2011

For some others, they genuinely feel comfortable with male-female friendship.  In fact they feel that guys-n- gals can make great pals and be detached also.

“	@_IamJyothi xactly y not ? Good morng billi :)
	Love_Guru_Baba July 31, 2011

“	Always. RT @_IamJyothi Have you ever felt more comfortable sharing your prbs wih a friend of the opposite gender than one of your own? #que
	vadakkus July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi A guy and a girl can be best friends, very close while romantically detached. I am an example.
	vadakkus July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi absolutely! Some of my most reliable 3 am fnds are guys and there has never been anything expect pure genuine fndship all along
	gossipal July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi yes and it seems natural too
	dineshjk July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi Ya no doubt Guys n girls can become best n best friends whc guy-guy and girl-girl can never become n never share their feelings
	Dhawalkumar July 31, 2011

And there is greater sensitivity in opp gender friendships with respect to personal matters…..

“	@_IamJyothi Opposite gender for sensitive things.
	countroshculla July 31, 2011

For some , a love based friendship is more stronger than other friendships :}

“	@_IamJyothi if guys nd gals r in love there relationship will be more strong than two guys (cont) http://wl.tl/HAY0A
	AaanakallaN July 31, 2011

Do you feel that common grounds are needed for a strong bond/friendship/relationship?

“	@_IamJyothi not common grounds but acceptance that the other is different n accept them as is :)) jab opposite hai to chance of common nil
	smsshruti July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi No friendship is just diff thng here looks, personality just doesnt matter koi farak nai padta in most cases
	Dhawalkumar July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi Yes I do. Imagine if i dated women who couldn’t stand classical music. No you need common bond for anything to happen long term
	Larry_Kolber July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi Stronger bonding depens on how much you time spent with each other for each other..
	amitsharmaz July 31, 2011

One key point mentioned is that to be comfortable sharing your thots, u need to feel a sense of closeness with that person. There should be mutual respect and affection

Also it is easier to confide in those who dont know you as they may judge you less (sadly) Then what is the meaning of close relationships if you dont trust the close ones enough to disclose your thoughts?

“	@_IamJyothi Sharing problem with opposite gender depends how much he/she close..mostly men dont share problms with girls.
	amitsharmaz July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi and for the record women do not appreciate their men having other woman as good pals, unless they r good pals with the girl too!
	Capt_Ck July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi it all depends on how ur relation is with someone one can discuss with opposite gender too par kuch bate nahi samajh sakte vo
	smsshruti July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi 🙂 exceptions to the rule are always there for both genders..!!
	Capt_Ck July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi it all depends on ones comfort zone with particular person ..
	smsshruti July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi Sure just like any friendship there should be mutual respect and acceptance. It is a two way road for both.
	alok_in July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi yes, its more comfortable and also sharing with someone who don’t know you since long is easier, as per me… (Cont’d)
	Naim_K July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi people who already know you starts judging you by the past experiences and not from the future perspective
	Naim_K July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi Depends on wider spectrum of situations,mindset,extrovert ,introvert nature,socialization etc.
	amitsharmaz July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi Depends on kind a matter personal or not...
	amitsharmaz July 31, 2011

At the end of the day, it is caring-sharing more than gender that matters….??

“	@_IamJyothi @smsshruti For me friendship is sharing n caring …gender no matters…
	amitsharmaz July 31, 2011

“	@amitsharmaz let me answer no gender does not mater but yes how close you are to the person that matters 😛 @_IamJyothi
	smsshruti July 31, 2011

And for some it is a difficult issue…..

“	@_IamJyothi it’s difficult ques sis
	vinayakrkm July 31, 2011

And my thots: friendship is the groundwork of any relationship….

“	Friendship is the starting of any relationship:-)RT @_IamJyothi: Friendship is the basis of any relationship
	oye_gujju July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi I have been saying that for a long time. If not friends first good chance will never be in a marriage situation
	Larry_Kolber July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi It could be because they are good in sharing the best they have that the other don’t posses.
	sanjivee July 31, 2011

“	@_IamJyothi As long as it is friendship and respect.
	alok_in July 31, 2011